First Date. . . or 30th?

I am kind of floating on a cloud right now and it's all thanks to Leather Boy. Actually, I call him Boy Wonder. That's my nickname for him. He has one for me too. It's G. Don't ask. They're just inside jokes. I guess you can tell that our first date on Wednesday went really well. I was extremely nervous because I wanted it to go well. Things have gone so well for us on the phone and I didn't want to screw it up. He brought me presents, which I thought was really sweet. There was a book that he had told me about on a previous phone call, called Stupid and Contagious. He bought me that book, along with another hilarious book, called This Book will Change your Life. He said that since we have been talking on the phone so much, the presents totally brought us up to date# 30. Ha. I like his math. It's funny how all the nervousness just went away within five minutes and then we were joking and laughing as if we were on the phone with each other. After dinner, we went back to my place and just hung out and watched TV. And no. . . nothing happened. Nothing beyond kissing. We are taking things slow with the whole sex thing. For the first time, I want to do this right. Even though it seems we've known each other forever, I still want to wait a little bit before taking that step. He actually agrees with me.

We have been talking and emailing ever since then. We couldn't talk Thursday night because I did go out with Seth. Seth and I had fun catching up and we saw The Breakup, which was a really cute and funny movie. It didn't necessarily end how I thought it was going to, but it was still good. I felt like a giddy schoolgirl because I could not stop thinking about Boy Wonder. He actually gave me a wake-up call on Friday morning, which was really nice. Also, on Friday night, we spoke and had a long conversation about past relationships and monogamy and basically, this is it. I don't mean to suggest that we are headed to the altar anytime soon or that I know he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with for sure. But I do know that we are committed to not seeing other people. I am so happy right now. I love how he makes me feel and I like that he can be completely open about how he feels about me. We have this amazing connection. He said that he feels like he finally found someone that he can make an eharmony commercial with. Isn't that sweet?

We did have our 2nd real time date last night and we had just as much fun as the first one. Who knew that I could feel this much this fast? I just hope that I don't do anything to screw it up. We are just so completely in sync with each other that he actually worries the same thing. But I think we can both relax. He keeps talking about the future and future plans and we even have a song now. Really, if I sound too much like a giggling, lovesick teenager, just reach through the computer and slap me upside the head. I almost want to slap myself. Whatever. . . I'm just going to enjoy the moment.

Survey

Nice little survey I found on some random blog. I did have my first date with Leather Boy. Not to worry, I will blog all about it on a later post. Just thought I would take a break from my busy social life and have a little fun. Anyone who wants to copy this survey, feel free.

GRUB-OLOGY

What is your salad dressing of choice? Thousand Island
What is your favorite fast food restaurant? Chick-fil-A
What is your favorite sit down restaurant? Anything with spicy food
On average, what size tip do you leave at a restaurant? 15-20%
What food could you eat every day for two weeks and not get sick of? Mexican
Name three foods you detest above all others. beans, bananas, and tomatoes
What is your favorite dish to order in a Chinese restaurant? Have no favorite dish. It varies
What are your pizza toppings of choice? Extra cheese, lots of meat, jalapeno peppers
What do you like to put on your toast? Strawberry jelly
What is your favorite type of gum? Don’t chew gum

TECH-OLOGY

Number of contacts in your cell phone? I don’t know. . . 20??
Number of contacts in your email address book? More than my cell phone, probably less than 30. I don’t know exactly
What is your wallpaper on your computer? Picture of me with a gun
What is your screensaver on your computer? Blank screen.
Are there naked pictures saved on your computer? Oh yeah. . . and those will never be on this blog. I’m sure all of you will be very relieved
How many land line phones do you have in your house? None. I only use a cell phone.
How many televisions are in your house? 2
What kitchen appliance do you use the least? The stove. . . I rarely cook.
What is the format of the radio station you listen to the most? Top 40’s.
How many sex toys do you own that require batteries? 2 . . . well, I guess three if you count the remote that goes with one of them. Hey, I told you I need sex on a regular basis and when a girl’s alone. . . you gotta do what you gotta do.

BI-OLOGY

What do you consider to be your best physical attribute? Jesus, I have no idea. Maybe the people who know me can tell me. My butt? My smile?
Are you right handed or left handed? Right handed
Do you like your smile? Sometimes
Have you ever had anything removed from your body? Nope
Would you like to? Sure, the fat from my stomach would be nice
Do you prefer to read when you go to the bathroom? Nope. I get in and get out.
Which of your five senses do you think is keenest? Smell
When was the last time you had a cavity? Never, I am proud to say
What is the heaviest item you lift regularly? Grad school textbook
Have you ever been knocked unconscious? Never

MISC-OLOGY

If it were possible, would you want to know the day you were going to die? As controlling as I am, I think that even some things should remain a mystery
If you could change your first name, what would you change it to? Mmm. . . Savannah, I think. It’s kind of sexy and it was actually my fake name during my time as a phone actress. Yes, you heard me. I did that.
How do you express your artistic side? Refer to the prior question.
What color do you think you look best in? oh, I look good in anything. . . but black is very slimming
How long do you think you could last in a medium security prison? I’m tough, so I could think I could take it for, oh, let’s say . . . a good week.
Have you ever swallowed a non-food item by mistake? Hair. Don’t even ask how, you wouldn’t want to know. And then there are other non-food items that have . . . let’s just say. . . surprised me.
If we weren't bound by society's conventions, do you have a relative you would make a pass at? Have you met my family? God, no.
How often do you go to church? Never. I am against organized religion in all its forms.
Have you ever saved someone's life? Not that I’m aware of. I have donated blood though, so who knows?
Has someone ever saved yours? Not unless you count all my friends who have saved my life simply by being there for me when I have needed you the most. You guys have been more family to me than my own. Thank you Luke, Dos, Seth, and Laura.

DARE-OLOGY

For this last section, if you would do it for less or more money, indicate how much.

Would you walk naked for a half mile down a public street for $100,000? I’d probably even do it for less . . . clothes are so restricting. I love being nude!
Would you kiss a member of the same sex for $100? Hell, yeah.
Would you have sex with a member of the same sex for $10,000? Again, I’d probably even do it for less. We’re talking money here. And how hard would it be to get it up for a hot woman?
Would you allow one of your little fingers to be cut off for $200,000? Hmm . . . this might take a little bit more money and little bit more morphine. And I think the amount of money would depend on the finger.
Would you never blog again for $50,000? Absolutely
Would you pose naked in a magazine for $250,000? I am such a slut. I would do it for $2,000, As World Traveler would have said, I am a “Free Spirit.” Ha.
Would you drink an entire bottle of hot sauce for $1000? Hey, my taste buds have been ingesting things a lot hotter all my life. This is not a problem.
Would you, without fear of punishment, take a human life for $1,000,000? If it was guaranteed I wouldn’t get caught or punished, then yes. . . bonus points for it being a Bush-loving, conservative, redneck.
Would you shave your head and get your entire body waxed for $5,000? I wouldn’t shave my head, but everything else, why not?
Would you give up watching television for a year for $25,000? I think it might take slightly more money to entice me to give up TV for an entire year

Blissful

Well, I the past few days have been really nice. I did have a date on Friday. It was a coffee date with European Count. We talked for a while. I don't know if I'll hear from him again and honestly, I'm not sure if I want to. There were several things that irked me about him. But actually, he reminded me a lot of Robert. That really bothered me. So if he did ask me out again, I don't think I'll do it. Even though I generally like to give a guy at least three dates before writing him off.

Anyway, I have been having quite the relationship via phone with a guy that I met on eharmony. I think I'll call him. . . . Leather Boy. Don't even ask about that one. We talked on the phone for the first time last Thursday and we talked for two hours. He's funny and smart and seems really interesting. Then we IM'd each other from work the next day and basically talked all day long. . . yeah, that's 8 hours. And last night, we had a good 3 1/2 hour conversation. You would think that we would run out of things to talk about, but we haven't yet. He works for the military and we both think the same way about a lot of things. We crack each other up constantly. It's great. Today, he said that I was like a drug. He compared me to crack. He seems to find me funny and smart and exciting, which is cool. I find him extremely interesting as well. He asked me to get together with him. We haven't even met yet, so this seems a bit crazy. We have plans for this Saturday, but he said that he can't wait that long to meet me. So we're going to try to meet sometime this week. I'm a little nervous, as is he. I think this could turn into something, but I'm afraid to get my hopes up. We haven't even met yet, so we both know that anything can still happen. I am still emailing a couple of other guys, but honestly none of them are packing the same spark that this one is. But I have the tendency to drop others once one shows a little promise. I'm trying hard not to do that, especially since we haven't even had one date yet. So we shall see.

Believe it or not, my life is not all about guys right now. Tomorrow night, I am getting together with an old friend that I haven't seen in months and we haven't had a chance to really hang out in a year. We used to work together at Coca-Cola and she's awesome. Frankly, since Kim dropped me and Cindy is in L.A., I need a girl's night out. It will be nice to have some girl talk and catch up with her. So much has happened in both of our lives since last we spoke. Last time we had dinner, I had just broken up with Robert (so I was majorly depressed) and I had just lost my job. I'm also trying to get in touch with Seth to see if he will go see Mama Mia with me this week. It's only here for a couple of days, I really want to see it, and Seth is the only person I know who likes musicals like me. Of course, Seth has spent the last two days with his boyfriend so I haven't been able to talk to him. I haven't seen Seth since Gay Pride. I did tell Leather Boy that the day I'm able to see him this week depends on the day that Seth is able to see the play with me. So I am totally committed to not blowing off plans to be with him, especially since I haven't seen Seth in so long. But I am really excited about meeting this guy. Oh man, something tells me I am in trouble.

My Crazy Life Part Two

So things are kaput with World Traveler and I am getting back into the swing of things of course. I had a date last night with a guy I'll call Math Professor. Please don't be dense enough to ask me how I came up with that nickname. We haven't really been emailing that long. He seems like a nice guy. When we talked on the phone the other day, he actually seemed nervous, which I found a little charming I must admit. I'm not really sure what to make of the date. We went out for Indian food. We both like spicy food. We did have fairly decent conversation. I'm not sure if there were instant sparks or not. I'm feeling kind of mediocre about it, I think. I guess we'll see if he asks me out for a second date or not. If he does, I'll say yes. My motto is to give a guy three dates before I make the decision on whether there is no chemistry or not. The guy is actually moving to Tampa in a month, so we'll see what happens. Distance isn't a deal breaker for me, so I guess it just depends on what happens between now and then.

I do have another date with another guy this Friday. His nickname is European Count. We've been emailing a couple of weeks. He seems funny and interesting. We've been playing phone tag for a couple of days. In the midst of all the phone tag, we did manage to make plans to meet for coffee on Friday. That one should be interesting. He has an accent. I'm trying to place it. But I have no idea where it's from.

I also joined a dating service last week. Yes, another one. So this one is a little more discriminating. They do background checks on all their members to screen out the ones that are married and the ones that are convicted felons. Okay, so get this. Apparently, according to a friend of my father's, I am being too picky and will never get a man. What?? Too picky? Yes, I am too picky. According to him, I should not necessarily disqualify EVERY single convicted felon like this service is doing. Also, I shouldn't dump guys who go a week without talking to me. And this service discriminates against people. Yeah, I admit it. Look at the guys I've been meeting through the services that don't discriminate. So I have no problem trying my luck at a service that says I deserve better than a convicted criminal. And I am not picky because I have standards. We aren't talking about deciding on what brand of ketchup I should buy. We're talking about deciding on the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. You have to have some standards. You have to have your limits. Otherwise, you'll wind up with the first loser who comes along (like so many others in this stupid town). I just know what I want and I know what I deserve. So I have my deal breakers and maybe you guys can tell me whether I'm being too picky or not. Here are my deal breakers (in no particular order):

1. must have job
2. must be non-smoker
3. can't have criminal record (we're not talking speeding tickets here. those are
okay.)
4. must be single
5. can not be into organized religion (I don't necessarily care if the person I'm
with believes in a higher power, but since I don't respect organized religion, I
can't be with someone affiliated with one)
6. must have similar political beliefs
7. must need sex on a regular basis (just threw that one in there for fun. but
seriously, I need it. . . all the time. Just ask any of my exes. I wore them
out.)

I'm not really going to say too much about personality because that's a given. Who doesn't want someone who's smart or honest? But these are really the only things I have to have in a guy. And when it comes right down to it, is that really so much to ask?

My Crazy Life Part One

It has been such a crazy week and a half. Things have been up and down and up and down. I'll try to keep it short and simple. Things are kaput with World Traveler. He kind of lost interest in me. He went over a week without talking to me. I actually called him after 4 days and you know what his excuse was? Playing video games and camping with some friend. O-kay. Sure. He could tell I was upset about something, but I told him that I would talk about it with him when he got back from his trip. He said he would call me back. That was last Thursday. You know when I heard from him? MONDAY. Seriously. Guys are idiots. . . and cowards. I had decided in my head that it was over. I mean, if I was overreacting, feel free to tell me I was wrong. But I feel like if he was really interested in me, then he would not have gone that long without talking to me. I wasn't even a blip on his radar. I told him that it was over and he acted like it was some huge surprise. He said this is how guys are (yeah, right) and they just go and do their thing. I said that if he liked me, he would have called at some point and obviously, this thing wasn't going anywhere. He didn't even deny that part. He said that if I couldn't handle how he worked, then maybe we weren't a good match and that he was of the mindset that if you love something, you should set it free. What a crock. If he really cared or wanted something more with me, he wouldn't have gone 8 days without talking to me. He probably just did it so I would break up with him. But I am not playing the same games I played with Robert. If I see that a guy doesn't want a future with me, I'm not going to wait around, hoping that he'll change his mind, just so I can end up with a broken heart in the end. Anyway, I'm proud of myself for doing the right thing. I haven't been the dumper in a while. Just because I have no guts. I'm disappointed that things did not work out, but I'm not heartbroken. But anyone can tell me if I was wrong for dumping him. I just think that the fact that he didn't deny that he didn't see a future with me says a lot. Obviously, he did not have any regard for my feelings. More to come on the rest of my crazy week in another installment.

So sleepy

This weekend was a good one. I went out to dinner with my family on Friday. I hadn't been out with them in a while. Other than one racist comment from my uncle, I had a decent time. Except for the fact that I was sitting around waiting for the phone to ring. I am such a girl. I hadn't heard from World Traveler since Wednesday and I was starting to wander what was going on. I did work on Friday night and of course, I couldn't concentrate. Got off at 7 am, went home and slept. . . or should I say, I tossed and turned. I did sleep for several hours though. It's weird. Dating someone for three weeks and it's getting to the point where not hearing from him causes my stomach to knot up. What's even worse is that I have no idea how he feels about me. He did contact me Saturday afternoon. He wanted to get together. Okay, so theoretically I should have said no. That's according to every single dating advice book out there. But who am I kidding? I have yet to follow a single rule with this guy from the start. We did have fun. We just hung out at his place. He made dinner, I kicked his ass in Scrabble, and he taught me how to dance. He taught me the basics of the waltz, the fox trot, and the tango. That was fun.

Seriously, I hate dating. I want to skip this whole uncertainty phase and just be married already. I don't know if he's the one or not (if such a person exists). I know we have great chemistry, we have a lot in common, we have fun together, and he makes me laugh. I could see myself with him long-term, but the problem is that I have no idea how he feels. He knows that I am seeing other people and it doesn't seem to affect him that much. Or maybe it does and he just isn't showing it. I know he isn't seeing anyone else. Ugh. . . dating is such a roller coaster. Up, down, up, down. I am going to talk to him about things soon though. Like whether he sees any long-term potential in me or not. If he doesn't, then it's better that I know now. Before I get anymore invested than I already am. I can't continue to date someone who sees me as nothing more than someone to hang out with and sleep with. I learned that from Robert. Look at me. I'm growing. What the hell?

The Keys to Your Heart

You are attracted to good manners and elegance. In love, you feel the most alive when your lover is creative and never lets you feel bored. You'd like to your lover to think you are loyal and faithful... that you'll never change. You would be forced to break up with someone who was insecure and in constant need of reassurance. Your ideal relationship is open. Both of you can talk about everything... no secrets. Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment. You think of marriage as something that will confine you. You are afraid of marriage. In this moment, you think of love as something you thirst for. You'll do anything for love, but you won't fall for it easily.

What Are The Keys To Your Heart?

Sweet, sweet vacation

My vacation in the mountains with World Traveler was. . . marvelous. We had an amazing time and it was just what I needed after these last few weeks of stress and drama. We went up to this little cabin in North Carolina and spent the night. The next day, we went to this state park and hiked a little around some really pretty waterfalls. Things are going so well with this guy and I almost hate to say that because I'm sure it will jinx it. He's so funny and great. We did find out a lot more about each other, which is a good thing. Sometimes, there are a few things about him that make me wander. But I have to get over this idea that whoever I end up with is going to be perfect and is going to have every single quality I want. So I just really need to look at what the true deal breakers are and see whether he is long-term potential or not. I'm also trying really, really hard to just take it one day at a time. It's hard though because I'm so damn impatient. We did have a talk about seeing other people. He joked that apparently, I'm allowed to date other guys, but I can't sleep with them. Uh. . . sure. But he's not seeing anyone else right now. He knows that there are a few guys on my radar and he knows he can't really say anything about it since I don't think either one of us are really ready to commit yet. It's only been two weeks, so it may be just a little too soon.

I'm just so used to guys disappearing on me that I'm waiting for this one to do the same thing. Silly, huh? I'm just waiting for him to realize that he can do better or that I'm not nearly as interesting as he thinks I am. But for some reason, he does think I'm interesting. And smart. And sexy. Crazy, huh? I don't really consider myself any of those things. I have self-esteem issues major. But I don't think this one is going to run away quite yet. We'll see what happens. Why can't I just shut my overanalytical mind off and enjoy this?